Co parenting takes work and patience.
Patience isn’t for everyone, neither is hard work….
I don’t say this lightly, because I know some people start off very well meaning and wanting things to work, but sadly don’t have the stamina to keep it up or to try their best for they children. Because, at the end of the day, you conceived the children together and they are your main priority in life, so it is “ALL ABOUT THE CHILDREN”.
My ex-husband and I have come to a place in the co-parenting journey where we can swap visit days if something comes up that doesn’t work, or we can talk openly about the needs of the two children.
By doing the thing that seems so simple now. We leave ourselves out of the equation.
“Girl wants to perform in a dance thing which will clash with your weekend. What do you think?”
“If that’s what she really wants to do, then let her do it.”
Family doesn’t stop because the two of you could no longer share a house together.
Judging the other party because you feel like you are the better parent doesn’t do anything for the children either. It just shows them how fearful you are about your abilities when they get home to you.
The children will grow up one day, so use co-parenting time as a learning experience.